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Friday, September 26, 2008

I should have known better!

i should have known better that i wasnt ready for this.
i should have known that this just wasnt me
i should have given myself time to know if this was truly what i wanted instead of allowing myself to be swept up in the moment.. now i regret.. i hate regretting.. but now i do... eventhough its a little.. i still do.

i let myself do what i have always been against... i dated a friend.
now i dont want to no more and i dont even know how to go about it..
after a month i started getting cold feet but i thought i could do it, so i ploughed on believing that it would get better with time and the feelings would dissipate and i would go back to liking him.. how was i to know that it was a crush and a crush it shall remain.. now that the crush is gone, what do i do?

if it was someone i was just acquaintances with, i could just tell him what i felt and it would be over, nothing do me.. but a friend? i keep considering his feelings and i dont know how to say anything and not sound selfish, unfeeling, wicked,hardhearted and all the cold words!

wahala part 2!

13 comments:

IDK said...

I was tryin to think of some way out for your sake..but how do u politely hurt someone's feelings?? Srry, babe...goodluck figurin out wt to do...

LusciousRon said...

Hurt is what it is no matter how subtle it is the person will still feel hurt but it is better late than never. Goodluck.

Jay said...

There is no easy way to do this but if your not into him then its better you tell him sooner rather than later...goodluck

Abujamaiden said...

I hope you get out of this soon. Its really hard but even if you're politely mean, he'll get over it.

(I'm kinda experienced in hurting folks that field but they get over it I guess!)

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

oh my, sorry oh! I can't think of any way. Let us know how it goes, ok?

NIGERIAN CURIOSITY
IT WAS SO MUCH EASIER WHEN I ONLY HAD ONE...

uNWrItten* said...

awww i hope you figure it out..u sound distressed :)

Rita said...

It surely has to be a heart to heart talk...first try to find out how he really feels about the relationship...

You could tell him how much you love him as a friend and that friendship is something you cherish...and you wish the both of you could go back to being just friends...

Goodluck dear...you know him better than anyone else and u know how to handle him...

zara (my alter ego) said...

IDK... ure leaving me alone to do it.. i guess i have to somehow..thanx..

LUSIOUSRON.... yeah am trying to do it as soon as i can.. thanx.

JARRAI.... sooner is sure what am looing at..thanx
ABUJAMAIDEN.... ur first time here... yeah i kinda dont care wen i tell guys off like that but i care bout this one cos he's a friend oh dear! thanx for stopping by though..

SOLOMONSYDELLE... i finally learn how to type ur name without looking at it...lol.. wud definately do a whole post of how it goes!

UNWRITTEN... i definately am distressed and unhappy! :(.. been a while since u've been here..thanx for stopping by again.

RITA.. i was thinking of something along those lines too.. thanx dear!

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Tairebabs said...

wow! I completely understand what you are stating 'cos my bf is/was my best friend before. I can't imagine how awkward things would have been if I didn't feel like I do at some point. But you are going to hurt your friend by delving deeper into the relationship hard as it may seem now to end it.

Kemberly said...

so what's the outcome ZARA? Eagerly awaitng your update!!!!

Buttercup said...

*sighs*..im in the process of breakin a heart now..not easy, i tell ya!

zara (my alter ego) said...

realli?? i feel better am not the onli 'mean' person i know!! yay!!lol.. mean i know..lol